I can’t believe this time last year I was planning out a wedding and today we have been married for 9 months already. I loved planning our wedding, and blogged about it too, you end up living and breathing wedding planning. So what happens after the wedding day? Something I thought would be interesting to write about is what life is like after getting married and the questions that are frequently asked.
We were engaged for two years so we had lots of time to enjoy engagement, whilst finishing off our degree in our first year of engagement, and then doing all the wedding planning in our second year. I throughly enjoyed being engaged and planning our wedding down tho the last detail to the point where our lives revolved around wedding planning. Once the Wedding Day & Honeymoon came and past there was then a period where I felt a bit lost, as I was so use to wedding planning. During this period there where many things to get use to, such as saying ‘My Husband and I ” and getting use to your new name. You also have your weekends and evening back, so we decided to start exploring new places around where we live and just generally settling into married life.
We have only been married for 9 months now but it feels like so much longer and I think it’s because we have been swept away with life that you kind of forget that you got married (it’s a weird feeling). The other day I decided to look back at photo and videos from our wedding day, all the emotions and memories of the day flooded back and it felt like only yesterday.
Questions frequently asked
So how’s Married Life?
The top question everyone seems to ask it So how’s married life? When someone first asked me I didn’t really know what to say. Married life isn’t really any different to single or engaged life, just you have another ring on your finger and your now a Mrs (well thats how I feel at least). Everyone seems to think after marriage everything changes but it really doesn’t, yes you have both made a commitment of love in front of all your loved ones but it’s not like you have now become a different person. Perhaps before getting married, we already believing in our vows.
How was your Wedding Day? / Do you have any photos?
Everyone asks how was your wedding day? its usually followed by Do you have any photos? and this usually gives you a change to relive it, which I love doing. I normally give them a quick run down of where we got married and how we throughly enjoyed ourselves. I love that even now there are people asking me how the wedding day was. Regarding photos I found it was really useful to upload my favourite wedding photos onto my phone or dropbox so I can quickly flick through them when people asked to see. My husband has more general photos of the wedding day where as half of my photos include length shots of my dress, as all my female colleagues always ask about my wedding dress photos.
What’s your new Surname?
For Women one of the biggest things about getting married is their last name, (interesting fact originally my husband and I were both going to double barrel our surnames but changed our minds a few weeks before our wedding day.) I haven’t changed my surname yet, biggest reason is it costs so much to get your passport redone and I still have 6 years left on, and I haven’t really had the time. I will do it in the next year but I’m secretly enjoying keeping my maiden name just for a tiny bit longer. I have married a foreign name so when ever I say my new surname I have to repeat it about 4 times before anyone understands it, so that will be fun once I change my name.
Plans for the future
There are two things that people tend to follow after getting married and thats Buying a house & babies. After marriage I thinks it’s good to have a couple of chats about your plans for the future, it really helps you get to know what your partner wants in the future and what their time frame is. It’s more than likely you have spoken about this before.
Buying a house is something we have worked towards since leaving uni, nearly two years ago. We are currently renting a one bed flat and are now eggar to buy our first house, which is so exciting but also scary. We have now worked out where we want to look for a house and hopefully toward the end of this year will be looking for one. We already know what we are looking for and know we want a house that needs work doing on it, I’m an Interior Designer and my Husband is brilliant with DIY, so it seems like the perfect little project for us.
From a young age I have always know I would love to have a family in the future, I love the idea of having a little family of my own. Having children is a topic that my husband and I have talked about since engagement and I thinks it important that you know where you partner sits on this topic. We both know we would like to have children in the next few year, as long as we have a house that has had all its’ work done to it.
Apart from buying our first house and starting a family we would also love to do lots of traveling too. Part of our honeymoon we went to Tenerife, which was amazing, and there are lots more places on our bucket list. With my Husband & I still only in our early 20’s we might as well make the most of this time by seeing lots of the world and maybe even take kids along with us in the future.
What I’ve Learnt
There are a few things I have learnt so far with the first being make time for each other. Since getting married we have only been on a handful of dates and we have started to realise that you really need to make time to go on dates or even a weekend break away. You can easily get sucked into work, which is very stressful at times, and if your not careful time can impact the way you are at home and your relationship.
The second thing is marriage wont always be easy, your have you ups and downs like any relationship, but at the end of the day your always have your best friend by your side.
There is so much to look forward too after marriage but remember everyone will have an opinion on what you should do next, but you need to do what is right for you and your partner. If you are still planning your wedding then why not take a look at my wedding section of my blog here.
If you have any other questions about this topic then please let me know?